I received an anonymous message recently that has refused to leave my mind. It’s one of those situations where there’s no easy answer — only perspectives. Here’s what she said:

> “I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. He’s everything you’d want on paper — kind, God-fearing, respectful. The type of man who’d rub your feet after a long day, pray with you before bed, and make you laugh till tears come out. But there’s one problem: he’s not financially stable.”

She described him as hardworking, always trying one hustle or the other. But the problem is, nothing ever really clicks. One small breakthrough and then, silence for months. In those three years, she has supported him — bought data, airtime, even borrowed money just to help him try again.

Then, something happened.

Her elder sister introduced her to a family friend — a soft-spoken businessman in his early 40s. Widowed. Wealthy. Mature. A man who knows what he wants. In just a few weeks, he did more for her than her boyfriend could do in years — took her out, bought her gifts, even sent her mother money for hospital bills. Unprovoked.
Now here’s the twist: the man is ready to settle down. He’s made his intentions clear. But she hasn’t told him about her boyfriend.

> “I still love my boyfriend,” she confessed, “but I’m tired. I’m 29. I don’t want to keep managing. I want a soft life too. I feel guilty, but also relieved when I’m with this other man.”


Can you blame her?

It’s easy to sit on the outside and say, “Stay loyal,” or “Money isn’t everything.” But when bills are piling, and your mates are posting vacations and new cars every weekend, loyalty starts to feel like a luxury.

Her dilemma is real. Does she stick with love and struggle or embrace comfort and lose what they’ve built?

There’s no right or wrong here — just life happening in shades of grey.

So we’re throwing the question to you:
If you were in her shoes, what would you do? Stay with love or choose the soft life?

Let’s talk about it.