What do you call it when someone doesn't want a relationship with you but wants all the benefits of a relationship?

They want relationship-like conversations, relationship-like warmth, and closeness.

They refuse to commit to you because they're not at a good place personally or any other lame excuse they could come up with. But that same reason doesn't make them leave you alone.

If their finances aren't right or they need time to work on their emotional healing, shouldn't they be busy with that?

What are they doing knocking at your door and monopolizing your attention?

You offered yourself to them. They turned you down. Why on earth do they linger in your life?

They call you frequently as if you're in something official. They share their inner thoughts with you. They want to spend time with you.

They want the relationship package but without the relationship price.

'Could you please give me everything except the bill?' They ask.

The only reason people behave this way is because you let them.

Yes, you're the cause.

You don't realize that you're a treasure for anyone to desire, and even those who can't give you what you want will want to take what you have.

For example, you're knowledgeable, and you give wise counsel. Who wouldn't want that for free?

You're fun and interesting to be with. You have a vibrant personality, and your energy is uplifting. Do you think people won't cling to that?

You're attractive, and you're honest. Even those who can't have you as a partner will try to have you as a space holder.

Those who can't have you by covenant will try to have you by convenience.

They can't give you any security but please don't leave.

They have nothing for you, but will you please hang around until they find what they want?

You entertain these people because you have a soft spot for them, and being with them feels just right. Who knows if they might change their mind and become serious with you?

In short, you're too emotional for this world.

Nobody moves from taking you for granted to treasuring you.

Nobody. That's not psychologically possible.

The moment people turn you down after knowing you, that's the end.

You can pull your feelings away and spare yourself any further humiliating rejection and exploitation, or you can go along for a second raw heartbreak.

But I have a question for you: How did you forget everything you went through to become who you are today?

All the self-work and painful journey of becoming, will you waste it on someone who can't honour you as much as to choose you?

How did you forget your worth when you worked for every ounce of it?