I feared for my marriage when I heard of the statistic that 70% of divorces are initiated by women. But then I came across another research that said the figure jumps to 90% when the couple are college graduates!

What?

Yes. Nine out of ten divorces among graduates are filed by the woman.

Why? Does it feed the myth that the more educated a woman is, the less submissive she gets?

Apparently, no. Education merely gives the woman an avenue to escape abuse and neglect.

It turns out that there's a whole experience a woman may be going through inside of the marriage that the man is totally ignorant of.

Additionally, good women - the type that's committed to building a marriage and a family - have another trait that makes things worse.

They're very patient. They tend to wait for so long before they give up, but once they're done, it's a wrap.

You see, a woman is expected to work as though she had no children but also to parent as if she has no job.

She's expected to be the emotional support system for the family. She should keep track of doctor's appointments and children's clinics.

She's supposed to remember everyone's birthday, wake up first and sleep last, plan the meals, keep the house clean, dress up everyone, and do all these seven days a week.

It doesn't matter whether she's expectant or breastfeeding.

And what should the man do? Simply bring a paycheck. Then he can sit and play his games or stay out with his boys for the evening.

Women are not quitting marriage because they're conceited or ungrateful. They're simply tired.

They're simply overstretched by all the unappreciated work.

They just don't see the point of being married when they have to do everything by themselves and still take care of a man on top of all that.

What should a caring man do? Very simple. Be her companion through everything.

Simply stay close. One excellent trait about women is that they talk. They're not like men who collapse in silence.

She will talk and express how she's feeling and where she wishes you can help her.

Eventually, what she needs will change with the seasons, but it will never be something outrageous or emasculating.

You can stay with the children once a week for her to go out and refresh.

You can eat out once a week and spare her the cooking.

You can come home early and spend the social hour together.

You can help put children to sleep so she can unwind for thirty minutes just before bedtime.

You can change the baby at night so she doesn't have to be on duty 24/7.

You can attend clinics with her to help with driving and record keeping.

You can automate some chores in the house with tools like dishwashers, laundry machines, and vacuumers.

You can take over the masculine tasks in the home like fixing the electronics, furniture, gardening, keeping the cars rolling, keeping the lights on, the water running, etc.

You can monitor groceries and shop for them without her having to ask.

In short, be your woman's companion indeed. Do not stay at a distance. This is what for-better-for-worse really means.

These things ease her mind and make her feel supported.

As a result, your teamwork will make the marriage thrive and remain divorce-proof.