When you enter a relationship, you should not lose focus. In fact, you should put in even more effort into becoming a better man. Unfortunately, many men, once they get a girlfriend, become complacent and lose their drive. Instead of using the relationship as motivation to improve, they fall into comfort and neglect their personal growth.
One common mistake men make is abandoning the gym. Before the relationship, he was consistent, dedicated, and focused on fitness. But once a girl comes into his life, he suddenly forgets about working out and gets lured into staying indoors, binge-watching Netflix, and listening to emotional music like Justin Bieber, Alan Walker, or Jay Melody. Bro, stop that. The only music you should be listening to is reggae—something that keeps your energy high and your mindset strong. Instead of neglecting fitness, involve your girlfriend. Hit the gym together or do home workouts. But if you're a young man still struggling to build your life, be honest with yourself—relationships can be distractions. Focus on getting your money right first.
I’ve seen men who, the moment they enter a relationship, start spending recklessly. Before, he was surviving on simple meals like sukuma, spinach, and cabbage—sometimes without even eggs. But now, just to impress his girlfriend, he changes his diet and starts eating through his savings. Worse, some even borrow money until everyone in the streets knows them as debtors. Bro, stop living beyond your means. If you continue, you will lose both your money and your girlfriend.
Another mistake men make is abandoning their male friends. He used to have a solid brotherhood, but now, he spends all his time with his girlfriend or hanging around groups of women discussing nonsense. Bro, never neglect your fellow men. Surround yourself with great men so you can learn and grow. Spending all your time with your girlfriend will soften you and make you lose your masculinity. Balance is key.
Some men become overly available for their girlfriends, giving them 24/7 attention and acting like bodyguards. Bro, have a life. Have goals. Don’t always be available. Even if you don’t have much going on, create some distance. Let her miss you. If you're always there, she will get bored and leave. Women appreciate a man who is busy and focused on his purpose.
If you're in a relationship, never stop grinding. Hustle even harder. A woman will love and respect you more if she sees you working toward something. She will chase you, trust me. But if you’re just there, scrolling TikTok and laughing like a madman all day, bro, soon you’ll breathe dust.
Many men also stop investing in themselves once they get into a relationship. They stop dressing well, stop upgrading their lifestyle, and start looking sloppy. Even "Simple Boy the Dragon Master" dresses better. Bro, keep investing in yourself. Buy that suit, that wristwatch, those shoes. Look good. A well-groomed man commands respect, and she will love you more when you take care of yourself. Never make her your first priority—you are your first priority.
Finally, never display desperation or neediness. Do not beg for her attention or revolve your life around her. If she disrespects you, walk away. Do not tolerate mistreatment. If she cheats, leave. Never be a slave to love.
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